Facilitators Guide

Trigger warning: this module contains information about sexual assault and violence which may be triggering to survivors.

Summary of the story

Solomon and Sally are dancing at a club. They decide to go outside and start kissing. Sally decides she wants to go back inside, but Solomon wants to stay outside. Solomon starts to grope Sally and she tried to push him away. Solomon assumes that Sally actually does want to continue getting physical, as he thinks that she implied this by going outside with him and kissing him. Sally tries to push Solomon away but he persists and rapes her. The police come to find Solomon, presumably in relation to the rape.

General questions to start discussions and explore the story

  • What’s happening in this story?
  • Explore points that are raised by participants – ask more questions about their statements.

Hints to prompt discussion

  • Alcohol affects people’s decision making.
  • Going out with or kissing someone does not imply consent for any other intimate acts, such as sex.
  • The clothes a person wears does not say anything about their character or willingness to have sex.
  • You should always respect another’s person’s decision to remove themselves from the current situation.
  • It is your right to say no to sexual advances.
  • A person has the right to say no and can do this with body language as well as words
  • There are various types of violence: physical, sexual and verbal. There is help available for people who experience these.
  • Violence is never the fault of the victim, no matter where they are or how much alcohol they have had to drink.
  • People who get in trouble for causing violence can have access to counselling and legal services.

Services Available

Dr Marie

Sexual health and unplanned pregnancy services

Phone: 1300 003 707 or Visit Dr Marie

Melbourne Sexual Health Centre

Free sexual health clinic, offering free condoms and testing and treatment including post-exposure prophylaxis if you think you have been exposed to HIV, walk-ins welcome.

Location: 580 Swanston St, Carlton, VIC
Phone: (03) 9341 6200 or visit Melbourne Sexual Health Centre

National Health Service Directory

Directory to find a doctor in your local area

Visit National Health Services Directory

Domestic Violence Resource Centre

Provide resources for people who are experiencing or have experienced family violence.

Visit Domestic Violence Resource Centre

InTouch – Multicultural Centre Against Family Violence

Provide counselling and other responses to issues of family violence within culturally and linguistically diverse communities.

Phone: 1800 755 988  or visit inTouch

1800 Respect – National Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence Counselling Service

National Counselling helpline, information and support 24/7.

Phone: 1800 737 732 or visit 1800 Respect

Victorian Centres Against Sexual Assault

There are 15 Centres Against Sexual Assault across Victoria, visit their website or call their general number for counselling or to access your local Centre.

Phone: 1800 806 292 or visit Victorian Centres Against Sexual Assault

Lifeline

24-hour Australia wide telephone counselling service.
Phone: 13 11 14 or visit Lifeline Australia

Kids Helpline

24-hour counselling service for children and young people aged 5 – 25.
Phone: 1800 55 1800 or visit Kids Helpline

Direct Line

A 24-hour drug and alcohol phone line offering counselling and referral services.
Phone: 1800 888 236 or visit Counselling Online

Family Planning Victoria

Sexual and reproductive health services for people under 25

Location: Level 1, 94 Elizabeth St, Melbourne, VIC

Phone: (03) 9660 4700 or visit Family Planning Victoria Action Centre

Youthlaw

Free community legal centre for young people under 25 years of age.

Phone: 9611 2412 or visit Youthlaw

Victorian Legal Aid

Free legal advice and legal services as well as online resources.

Phone: 1300 792 387 or visit Victoria Legal Aid

Men’s Referral Service

Telephone service for men who are thinking about their anger, behaviour, relationship issues or parenting and need help.

Phone: 1300 065 973 or visit Men’s Referral Service

Mensline Australia

Telephone and online support, information and referral service, helping men to deal with relationship problems in a practical and effective way.

Phone: 1300 789 978 or visit Mensline Australia

Turning Point Alcohol and Drug Centre

Provides a wide range of specialist treatment and support services to people affected by alcohol and drug use.
Available: Monday to Friday, 9:30am to 5pm
Phone: (03) 8413 8413 or visit Turning Point Alcohol and Drug Centre